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Wednesday, 24 April 2013

HE 4 D'S OF SPIRITUAL GROWTH



"Promise Yourself ... to be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. ...To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble."
-- Drawn from the Optimist Creed of the Optimist International Club
Reflect on this pathway for meaningful growth: 

DISCIPLINE - To create change in our lives, we need to consistently focus on what we want. 

DETACHMENT - Practice the art of detached observation. Let go of automatic defenses and patterns. 

DISCERNMENT - Seek to discern the lower from the higher. What is self-serving and what is soul-inspired? Discernment carries no judgment. There are no goods and bads. Remain as a detached witness. 

DHARMA "This is an East Indian word meaning "living your unique purpose." How do you find meaning and fulfillment in ways that are natural to you? How do you best serve and contribute to the world? 

"If you wish to travel far and fast, travel light. Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiveness, selfishness, and fears."
-- Glenn Clark

A LIGHT LOOK AT LIFE'S JOURNEY



"Inside every older person is a younger person--wondering what the hell happened."
-- Cora Harvey Armstrong
"The hardest years in life are those between 10 and 70."
-- Helen Hayes (at 73)
"Old age ain’t no place for sissies."
-- Bette Davis
"Thirty-five is when you finally get your head together and your body starts falling apart."
-- Caryn Leschen
"If you can find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn’t lead anywhere."
-- Frank A. Clark
"I'm looking forward to looking back on all this."
-- Sandra Knell

FORGIVE THE HURTS



"Forgiveness will never fail to free you."
-- Jerrold Mundis
How do we forgive when we're angry and hurt?
As a first step, we can be willing to truly feel our anger and hurt. Honouring our feelings by being fully present with them helps to release the feelings themselves.
And it helps to remember that people only hurt others when they themselves are in pain. When we can recognize the other person's suffering, our heart can open in compassion. We can also remember that at some time or another, we too have hurt someone through our own unskilful action.
Only love can heal the rifts caused by a hurtful deed. Forgiveness holds immense power because it mends separation. It moves us towards the unity and love that lie at the core of our being. It is a fundamental part of the healing process.
"Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future."
-- Paul Boese

"God has a big eraser."
-- Billy Zeoli

USE YOUR POWER TO CREATE


"I am a child of God. I came from the womb of creation."
-- Tao Te Ching
Our grand business in life is not to see what lies dimly at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand."
-- Thomas Carlyle
We each play a role in the bigger game of life. In this bigger picture, life plays with energy and matter to expand, create, express and evolve. It explores new possibilities, realizes them and then reaches for even more. Life continually transforms what is into something brand new.
We choose how actively we take part in this cosmic dance. We can become mere spectators to life if we get stuck in old ideas that have lost their energy for us.
How much passion do you feel for your goals? Are you still being creative in how you work with them?
"Embrace fully your capacity to create, to think in unlimited ways, and to pursue everything that you have been wanting. Be flexible, open and willing to let the new come to you. "This can be the most joyous, prosperous, and creative time of your life."
-- Sanaya Roman and Duane Packer

TWO VIEWS


"... no matter what our difficulties may be, we recognize that there is a deep untroubled stream flowing below all surface troubles and that we are of one substance with that stream. The soul knows no difficulties."
-- James Thornton

Masters teach that we can experience two completely different states of reality at the same time -- from the personality and from the soul.
Author Pema Chödron talks about being hungry, cold and tired but at that same time deeply content. Ram Dass speaks of how the emotional heart can be breaking while we recognize that all is unfolding perfectly.
Allowing our soul to be present with the discomforts of the personality shifts our experience of the discomforts. 

"True self simply refers to the aspect of our being that is completely aware of its expanded nature no matter what we may be experiencing in our lives."
-- Martia Nelson

OPEN TO THE NEW


"All the people we call ‘geniuses’ are men and women who somehow escaped having to put that curious, wondering child in themselves to sleep."
-- Barbara Sher
How willing are you to learn something new?
How open are you to new perspectives?
Only when we're open can we really hear what's being said or really see what's happening or really experience the moment.
Openness demands that we be willing to move to places we've never been before. It asks us to continually challenge the foundations of our belief systems so we can test out new ideas. And to do that, we need to accept insecurity.
"The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn."
-- Alvin Toffler

FIND PEACE INSIDE


"All spiritual disciplines are done with a view to still the mind. The perfectly still mind is universal spirit."
-- Swami Ramdas

Getting into the habit of meditating, praying and/or resting daily helps us pull back from our preoccupation with the material world. In silence and solitude, we have an opportunity to pay attention to what's happening inside rather than outside. 

When we do this consistently, we learn to relax and to quiet and detach from our mental chatter and our turbulent emotions. As we begin to witness ourselves in personality, we also begin to experience our soul. 

"Meditation may require a lifetime to master, but it will have been a lifetime well spent." If you want to judge your progress, ask yourself these questions: Am I more loving? Is my judgment sounder? Do I have more energy? Can my mind remain calm under provocation? Am I free from the conditioning of anger, fear, and greed? Spiritual awareness reveals itself as eloquently in character development and selfless action as in mystical states."
-- Eknath Easwaran

ARE YOU HAPPY?


"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere."
-- Agnes Repplier
Are you happy?
Don’t answer too quickly. Sit with this question for a long time and you’ll be introduced to brand new dimensions of who you are and of what matters in your life. 

"Happiness comes only when we push our brains and hearts to the farthest reaches of which we are capable."
-- Leo C. Rosten

KNOW THE FACTS OF YOUR FINANCE



"I've got all the money I’ll ever need, if I die by four o'clock."
-- Henny Youngman
Exactly how much money have you earned today? Exactly how much have you spent?
To master money management on the road to prosperity, you must know the details of how money moves through your life. Few people know the specifics of their finances.
Begin to gather the hard data of your earning and spending. You'll find knowing this information is surprisingly empowering.
"As you manage your money, you manage your life."
-- Dan Millman
"A lean purse is easier to cure than endure."
-- George S. Clason

A FOCUS FOR PARENTS


"Parents: persons who spend half their time worrying how a child will turn out, and the rest of the time wondering when a child will turn in."
-- Ted Cook
One of our responsibilities as parents is to become independent of our children.
Andrew Schneider notes that many of us feel inadequate as parents because we assume we are totally responsible for them, but we are not.
Schneider says, "Their soul is in charge of their lives, and nothing that you do can greatly interfere nor greatly help. Who you are as a being and what you model is the important reality."
How specifically can we support our children? We want them to feel nurtured and valued. We want to support them in learning how to provide for themselves. And we want to help them build good relationships.
"The most important thing that parents can teach their children is how to get along without them."
-- Frank A. Clark
"There are only two lasting bequests we can hope to give our children. One of these is roots; the other, wings."
-- Hodding Carter

HOW DO YOU PLAY YOUR ROLES?


"What concerns me is not the way things are, but rather the way people think things are."
-- Epicetus

When we are basically unconscious, we live according to social roles. We perform as sons and daughters, mothers and fathers, husbands and wives, employers and employees, as society expects us to.
As we grow in awareness, we gain the freedom to bring our own unique perspectives to these roles. We can express ourselves authentically and creatively, without letting our roles dictate how we should behave.
"Risk! Risk anything! Care no more for the opinion of others, for those voices. Do the hardest thing on earth for you. Act for yourself. Face the truth."

-- Katherine Mansfield

WHAT MESSAGE DID YOU MOST NEED TO HEAR?


"One word frees us from the weight and pain of life; that word is love."
-- Sophocles
In exploring the enneagram, Riso and Hudson have identified 'lost messages' that we needed to hear as children but didn't. The absence of these words may be at the heart of our most basic fear. And unconsciously we may still be seeking to hear these words from others.
Review the following messages and note if any one touches you more strongly than the others:
  1. "You are good."
  2. "You are wanted."
  3. "You are loved for yourself."
  4. "You are seen for who you are."
  5. "Your needs are not a problem."
  6. "You are safe."
  7. "You will be taken care of."
  8. "You will not be betrayed."
  9. "Your presence matters."
"Oh the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are -- chaff and grain together -- certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and with the breath of kindness blow the rest away."
-- Dinah Mulock

ON SELF-HONESTY


"No man, for any considerable period, can wear one face to himself, and another to the multitude, without finally getting bewildered as to which may be true."
-- Nathaniel Hawthorne

"You cannot fake a relationship and feel right with yourself or anyone else. Changing yourself to fit what you think other people want doesn’t work. Pretending to be someone other than yourself only broadens the distance between the person you are and the one with whom you’re trying to establish closeness."
-- Mary Manin Morrissey

"Just as surely as distress must follow self-deceit, healing must follow self-honesty."
-- Vernon Howard

"Don't compromise yourself. You are all you've got."
-- Janis Joplin

THE FIRST STEP TO FORGIVENESS


"To get to forgiveness, we first have to work through the painful experiences that require it."
-- Christiane Northrup

To forgive, we do not have to say that whatever happened was okay. In fact, before we can forgive, we need to allow ourselves to really feel the pain of the experience. If we don’t fully acknowledge our hurts, we will continue to carry them subconsciously and they will drain our energy.
To forgive, we need to decide that we won't allow the memories of the event to poison us any longer. We're ready to heal this wound from the past and open to a fresh new beginning.
The blessing is that when we're really ready to experience our pain and we open to it, it usually fades away. By honouring our pain, we release it. 

"We must let ourselves feel all the painful destruction we want to forgive rather than swallow it in denial. If we do not face it, we cannot choose to forgive it."
-- Kenneth McNoll

Friday, 22 March 2013

BELIEVE IN YOUR UNLIMITED POTENTIAL




"You cannot see anything that you do not first contemplate as a reality."
-- Ramtha
How do you typically define yourself? Do you tell yourself and others that you are slow and methodical, that you have two left feet, that you are lazy, or unimaginative or that you can't hang on to money?
In our unconscious self talk, most of us rarely say positive things about ourselves. List the positive and the negative ways you describe yourself. Then look over your list and contemplate how those definitions limit your ability to be cosmic in your outlook and performance.
"Belief has the word 'lie' in it... and that pretty much sums up what the world has us believing about ourselves."
-- Doug Firebaugh
"We are what we believe we are."
-- Benjamin N. Cardozo

STRETCH YOURSELF


"People are defeated by easy, victorious and cheap successes more than by adversity."
-- Benjamin Disraeli
Today’s social standard is one of mediocrity. The status quo rarely challenges our individual creative power.
Create a brand new world for yourself, one that meets your deepest needs. By doing so, you will help raise the quality of consciousness of the entire world. Use your imagination! Sing your own song!
"Success means fulfilling your own dreams, singing your own song, dancing your own dance, creating from your heart and enjoying the journey, trusting that whatever happens, it will be OK. Creating your own adventure!"
-- Elana Lindquist

WHAT ARE YOU PROCRASTINATING?




"The greatest amount of wasted time is the time not getting started."
-- Dawson Trotman
Procrastination seriously drains our energy and our morale. What remains undone nags at us. What are you avoiding?
Make a list of items and then review each one. Does it really need to be done? After you've reviewed your list, prioritize it and start one task today.
Please do not procrastinate taking one minute to write down your answer to this question. Capture it on paper and this will help build awareness, commitment and discipline.
"How soon not now, becomes never."
-- Martin Luther
"Talk does not cook rice."
-- Chinese proverb
"Do you know what happens when you give a procrastinator a good idea? Nothing!"
-- Donald Gardner

WHY ARE YOU DOING THAT?





"What we see depends mainly on what we look for."
-- Sir John Lubbock
Throughout the day, continually ask yourself about your underlying motivation. Why are you doing what you are doing?
Is it for selfish, manipulative or fearful reasons? Is it for honest service with integrity? Maybe you'll discover you don't know. Perhaps you will see that much of your activity lacks purpose.
This is a great way to become more conscious. Your intention and motives are fundamental to the results you will receive. Set high intentions and your life will blossom.
"The great thing in the world is not so much where we stand, as in what direction we are moving."
-- Oliver Wendell Holmes

USE YOUR BREATH TO RELAX YOUR BODY








"Breath is the link between the inner and outer worlds."
-- Alice Christensen
We live in very demanding times, and our health depends on our being able to relieve our bodies and minds from constant stress. Breathing with awareness can focus and concentrate our attention inside. This slows down our pace and eases the pressure, anxiety, anticipation and excitement that are common stress reactions.
At any time, you can consciously experience your breathing to help you concentrate your mind and relax your body. Compare how you feel after your session with how you felt before. Write about your experience in your journal.
"Controlled deep breathing helps the body to transform the air we breathe into energy. The stream of energized air produced by properly executed and controlled deep breathing produces a current of inner energy which radiates throughout the entire body and can be channeled to the body areas that need it the most, on demand."
-- Nancy Zi

LIVE IN RELAXATION




"It would be glorious to see mankind at leisure for once. It is nothing but work, work, work."
-- Henry David Thoreau
Is relaxation possible only when we’re not working? No. With awareness and practice, we can be relaxed no matter what we are doing. In fact, when we work in a relaxed state, our productivity increases as our effort decreases.
For true relaxation, we need to connect with our bodies -- to consciously and intentionally become aware of tension and release it.
"Anxiety breaks a man’s backbone."
-- Hebrew proverb
"Don't hurry, don't worry. You're only here for a short visit. So be sure to stop and smell the flowers."
-- Walter Hagen

BE OPEN TO CHANGE


"Balance is a dynamic process; it changes with the days, the seasons, the years."
-- Sherrill Sellman
How rigid are your routines? Do you exercise for 30 minutes, three times each week no matter how you feel?
Routines and structure can provide a valuable framework to bring discipline to our lives. At the same time, we are always changing and it's wise to be sensitive to our physical, emotional and mental states so we can ensure that our activities truly meet our needs. We need to be willing to change our patterns when our practices no longer serve us.
"Only in growth, reform, and change, paradoxically enough, is true security to be found."
-- Anne Morrow Lindbergh
"The smallest change in perspective can transform a life. What tiny attitude adjustment might turn your world around?"
-- Oprah

BUILD THE AWARENESS HABIT



"It is difficult to see the picture when you are inside of the frame."
-- Author Unknown
Start building the awareness habit: STOP and PAY ATTENTION. Set an intention to become aware of how you automatically react to different things in your life.
For example, how do you react to the alarm clock, the shower, traffic, work colleagues and situations, your partner or children? How do you react to anger or fear in someone else? How do you react to your own anger or fear? Become a witness to your own life. Pay attention to how you do things.
"What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself."
-- Abraham H. Maslow

CELEBRATE DIFFERENCES




"Souls don’t have races or sexes or religions. They are beyond artificial divisions."
-- Brian Weiss
Intolerance of differences always exists in people who don’t know who they are, people who don’t have a strong sense of their own authentic self, the soul within.
Intolerance is rooted in fear.
The basis for having a strong sense of self-esteem is to replace our unconscious idea of basic unworthiness with a conscious knowing of our fundamental inherent goodness. As Matthew Fox argues in Original Blessing, the notion of ‘original sin’ must be replaced with the truth of ‘original blessing.’
Being in touch with our essential goodness, we can see the essential goodness in others as well.
"Beliefs separate. Loving thoughts unite."
-- Paul Ferrini

DO YOU BELIEVE IN YOURSELF?



"We cannot rise higher than our thought of ourselves."
-- Orison Swett Marden
What do you believe about yourself?
If you are experiencing a lack of something in your life, chances are that you hold a belief in your subconscious that says you aren't worthy of having that quality. Write in your journal the answer to these questions for yourself:
  • Where are you not good enough, not worthy enough?
  • How willing are you to receive?
"We do not believe in ourselves until someone reveals that deep inside us something is valuable, worth listening to, worthy of our trust, sacred to our touch. Once we believe in ourselves we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight or any experience that reveals the human spirit."
-- e. e. cummings

WHAT'S YOUR BEST ROUTINE?


"For all my good intentions, there are days when things go wrong or I fall into old habits. When things are not going well, when I'm grumpy or mad, I'll realize that I've not been paying attention to my soul and I've not been following my best routine."
-- Robert Fulghum
How do you need to bring more balance to your life?
Robert Fulghum has shared, "The older I get, the more I realize the importance of exercising the various dimensions of my body, soul, mind and heart. Taken together, these aspects give me a sense of wholeness. I want to be a whole human being rather than one who limps on one leg because I don't know how to use all of my parts. Intellectual, emotional, and physical activity are not separate entities. Rather, they are dimensions of the same human being."
"There is an Indian Belief that everyone is in a house of four rooms: A physical, a mental, an emotional and a spiritual. Most of us tend to live in one room most of the time, but unless we go into every room everyday, even if only to keep it aired, we are not complete."
-- Rumer Godden

WHO SETS THE STANDARDS YOU LIVE BY?


"If I get to pick what I want to do, then it's play... if someone else tells me that I have to do it, then it's work."
-- Patricia Nourot
Are you continually struggling to accomplish what is expected of you? If so, stop to think for a moment: who holds those expectations?
Perhaps you're trying to meet the expectations of a parent or a teacher or other authority figures who may be long gone from your life. But many of us toil under the critical eyes of a vague 'somebody' who always judges that we've never done enough or done things well enough. Who is this phantom judge? And do we need to care about what they think any longer?
We find both our own power and happiness when we begin to set our own standards around what has heart and meaning for us.
"Doubt yourself and you doubt everything you see. Judge yourself and you see judges everywhere. But if you listen to the sound of your own voice, you can rise above doubt and judgment. And you can see forever."
-- Nancy Lopez

PERSONAL POWER


"The deep root of failure in our lives is to think, 'Oh how useless and powerless I am.' It is essential to think strongly and forcefully, 'I can do it,' without boasting or fretting."
-- Dalai Lama
Angeles Arrien says that whether we are male or female, we need to develop three kinds of power. People who hold these three powers cannot be ignored.
  1. Power of presence - Being really present in each moment
  2. Power of communication - Speaking my truth
  3. Power of position - Being willing to take a stand
"A man's true state of power and riches is to be in himself."
-- Henry Ward Beecher
"We are no longer puppets being manipulated by outside powerful forces; we become the powerful force ourselves."
-- Leo Buscaglia

Tuesday, 26 February 2013

DO YOU BELIEVE IN YOURSELF?


"We cannot rise higher than our thought of ourselves."
-- Orison Swett Marden
What do you believe about yourself?
If you are experiencing a lack of something in your life, chances are that you hold a belief in your subconscious that says you aren't worthy of having that quality. Write in your journal the answer to these questions for yourself:
  • Where are you not good enough, not worthy enough?
  • How willing are you to receive?
"We do not believe in ourselves until someone reveals that deep inside us something is valuable, worth listening to, worthy of our trust, sacred to our touch. Once we believe in ourselves we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight or any experience that reveals the human spirit."
-- e. e. cummings

Tuesday, 19 February 2013

RESPONSIBILITY BRINGS POWER


"To be tested is good. The challenged life may be the best therapist."
-- Gail Sheehy
What holds you back from being all that you are? 

In your journal, list at least 5 things that hold you back.

Now review your answers. Have you blamed people or factors outside of yourself? 

It's important to understand that ALL obstructions are rooted in our internal blocks. Even the problems that appear to be outside of us are only reflecting back to us problems we have inside. Once we address our inner issues, the outer problems disappear.
Be personally accountable for everything in your life and watch your perspectives shift. We claim our power when we accept responsibility for our lives. 

"Conscious evolution begins as we take responsibility for clearing our own obstructions."
-- Dan Millman

Having conflicts with the kids? Relax!!!!



"Family life! The United Nations is child's play compared to the tugs and splits and need to understand and forgive in any family."
-- May Sarton
Faced with a child (or a person of any age, for that matter) who is angry or rebellious? Consider the guidance from Vimala McClure: 

"To discover what my child needed, a deep, yielding receptivity was vital. The temptation is to become more and more rigid, but the more you do, the less you understand. When faced with a child who is testing your resolve, relax and yield .... 

"As a parent, the frustration of not knowing how to fill a need that cannot be articulated can be overwhelming. Often we direct the rage that stems from that frustration toward the child, which serves to distance us even further, making it impossible for the child to open up to us. To get to this type of receptivity, a practice of conscious relaxation is a must." 

"Those who have children can become masters of patience, endurance, and steadfastness, because children will test you at every turn. ...The way to make our children patient and loving is to be that way ourselves."
-- Eknath Easwaran

Friday, 15 February 2013

Are you struggling with money??


"Managing your money does not depend upon becoming wealthy or declaring vows of poverty. Rather, it is about creating stability and sufficiency - a balanced flow of monetary energy through your life."
-- Dan Millman
What would it take to achieve financial stability and sufficiency in your life? 

Lets take a honest look at your life. How could you achieve financial stability and sufficiency? Would you need more income? Would you need to trim back your lifestyle? Would you achieve this by refusing to purchase on credit? What can you do now that would move you one step closer to having control over the money in your life? 


"We can respond creatively to what we experience as life-depriving and become richer in spirit for having met the challenge."
-- Tad Crawford

Tuesday, 12 February 2013

LEARN TO BE AWARE


"You can live a lifetime and, at the end of it, know more about other people than you know about yourself."
-- Beryl Markham
Who am I? To answer this, we must first learn to become more aware of ourselves. To be aware, we must STOP and PAY ATTENTION! We need to STOP and objectively watch ourselves in action.
We live most of our lives by habit. These habits keep us stuck in patterns that limit our experience of life. Once we detect a pattern we were previously unconscious of, we can choose differently, if we want. With awareness comes choice and with choice, we gain freedom.
"To be authentic is literally to be your own author..., to discover your own native energies and desires, and then to find your own way of acting on them."
-- Warren G. Bennis
"Self-knowledge is the great power by which we comprehend and control our lives."
-- Vernon Howard

A NEW LOOK AT PROBLEMS


"The problem is not that there are problems. The problem is expecting otherwise and thinking that having problems is a problem."
-- Theodore Rubin
Our lives really begin to change when we learn to shift our perspective on 'problems.'
From a spiritual perspective, problems offer our best path to growth. Like it or not, pain gets our attention. Discomfort also challenges the ego's perception that it is in complete control of life. This opens the door for soul's guidance.
If we want to be rid of the problem, we need to shift from denial and resistance to accept that this situation is present. We need to be willing to truly feel our experience to allow the energy of emotions to move through.
Finally, we need to explore what belief is giving rise to our distress. When we realize the belief is faulty, our shift in perspective resolves the problem. The solution always lies within us.
"No one can go back and make a brand new start. Anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending."
-- Source Unknown

OPEN TO THE MOMENT


"Why not concentrate on the now instead of hoping for better times in the future? Why not understand the now instead of forgetting it and hoping for the future? Isn't the future just another trap?"
-- Anthony de Mello
Soul exists only in this moment. Every moment, no matter what the conditions, offers opportunities to touch and experience life in a new way. Our egos, with their fears and desires, easily get trapped in the past and the future, but the power to change exists only in this moment.
We don't need to know more or have more before we can live more deeply. We simply need to pay attention to what’s happening now. To open without judgment to the worlds around and within us.
"Nothing is worth more than this day. You cannot relive yesterday. Tomorrow is still beyond your reach."
-- Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

THE CHALLENGE OF RELATIONSHIPS


"It doesn't much signify whom one marries, for one is sure to find out the next morning that it was someone else."
-- Samuel Rogers
Despite our passion for romantic love, relationships are not the easiest way to find love and peace. They are, however, one of the most effective for finding our blocks.
Relationships naturally bring out into full view our desires, attachments and unconscious programs - our likes, dislikes, belief systems, judgments, compulsions, conformities, etc. Relationships challenge us because they take us deep into thoughts, feelings and experiences we have suppressed for a lifetime. That's why they provide the very best arena for personal growth!
"Human relationships are the perfect tool for sanding away our rough edges and getting at the core of divinity within us."
-- Eknath Easwaran

DISCOVER THE TREASURES INSIDE


"Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude."
-- Denis Waitley
Peace, joy, health and well-being can only be found inside us. They exist within us now, waiting to be discovered. Yet we tend to look to the outside world to satisfy our needs and longings.
Our outer life reflects back to us the way we think, feel and behave. The outer world is all effects. Go to the source inside for all of life’s treasures.
How are you searching for peace and contentment outside of yourself?
"The great Western disease is, ‘I'll be happy when… When I get the money. When I get a BMW. When I get this job.’ Well, the reality is, you never get to when. The only way to find happiness is to understand that happiness is not out there. It's in here. And happiness is not next week. It's now."
-- Marshall Goldsmith

Monday, 28 January 2013

EXPERIENCE STILLNESS


"My greatest wealth is the deep stillness in which I strive and grow and win what the world cannot take from me with fire or sword."
-- Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

If our minds are always busy, they don't get time to do basic maintenance - to sort, tidy up and take out the trash. If we don't periodically clear out space in our minds, there’s no room for new ideas to take root.
Where do you find stillness each day and each week? Plan for quiet time, relaxation and stillness daily, even if it's only for 5 or 10 minutes. 

"For peace of mind, we need to resign as general manager of the universe."
-- Larry Eisenberg

LEARN TO LET GO


"To attain knowledge, add things every day. To attain wisdom, remove things every day."
-- Lao Tzu

How do we take something away? As we cultivate higher awareness, we begin to see just how much we have added things that really aren't there to our picture of reality. Our beliefs, concepts and emotions all add layers of meaning to physical reality, but that meaning exists for us only - it has no objective existence. For example, the word 'mother' has a complicated network of meaning for each of us.
Become aware of how your beliefs and emotions colour your perception of different events in your life. See if you can begin to step out of your fabrications to experience the truth and spaciousness of what is. 

"When guilt rears its ugly head confront it, discuss it and let it go. The past is over. ... Forgive yourself and move on."
-- Bernie S. Siege
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Wednesday, 23 January 2013

Its okay to dream....................


"Don't discard your fantasies as merely wishful thinking. Honor them as messages from the deepest part of your being about what you can do and directions you can choose."
-- Sanaya Roman and Duane Packer
What are your deepest heart-felt desires, dreams and visions?
Our deepest desires and dreams align with the essence of who we are. The more we align with that essence, the more our life holds meaning, purpose and fulfilment. Do you have a sense of your destiny?
"Dreams are renewable. No matter what our age or condition, there are still untapped possibilities within us and new beauty waiting to be born."
-- Dale E. Turner
"Everybody builds a dream in their lifetime. You're either going to build your dream, or somebody else's. So build your own!"
-- Christopher LaBrec

You’re Fired!” 5 Ways To Spot the Danger Signals & Deal with It


“You are fired!”
These are the words that business tycoon Donald Trump was known for in his TV reality show “The Apprentice”. However in the real world getting fired can even be more subtle or ruthless depending on who is concerned. It is something that happens every day in the corporate world so just how does one read the hand writing on the wall and know ahead of time that the end may be near?
Here are five signs you could be fired from your current workplace. If you notice any of them you might want to find ways to stop your imminent departure from the organization.
  • You are Cut out of the Loop
In the past, you were always involved in all the issues arising in your department. You were kept abreast of policies and development, but you’ve noticed some changes now. Perhaps you are a senior account officer who is privy to all sensitive financial information from management to senior officials such as yourself and then suddenly you get nothing. No briefings, no memos …. nothing of the level of importance you used to get. You get cut out of crucial meetings where you were vital.
What to do?
You should take the initiative and approach your superiors. Respectfully point out your concerns on the recent turn of events and make it clear you do not begrudge anyone because of the change in the way things are being run. In this kind of situation, it is better to confront issues and make it clear you are not on a warpath with anyone. This could ease some tension and even secure your job   
  • You Blow it Big Time
Mistakes are often made in business and your case is not different. However there are limits to mistakes some management can take. When you lose a huge client under your watch, through a fault or incompetence of yours, the management could come out of its next meeting with your sack letter. Nothing causes angst among senior management as an employee making a mistake that costs the business a ton of money.
Apologies can go a long way
When you find yourself making such costly mistakes or losing business you need to quickly send in your apology and meet with your management. Promise to make up your mistakes with better performances. Respectfully show your remorse at the bad decision but never appear desperate. A quick written and oral apology to the decision makers may save you from further sanctions they may have been considering.
  • New Hot Blooded Takeover of Your Department
Many times we have seen it happen where a new guy, straight from an MBA at Harvard or Lagos Business School, gets hired as the new General Manager or head of your division. You come to work one morning and discover everybody huddled in disquiet and some even cleaning away their desks.
The new guy in charge probably decided that the company was losing so much money paying all of you fat lazy snobs/ the company needed to get more competitive and the best way to do that is to sack half the staff gradually/  he doesn’t need so many hands in running the place/ he just doesn’t like the faces of some people in the division.
Then when you try as hard as possible to get in good terms with the new guy he seems not to have such high regard for you. He, however, seems to like your deputy or second and gives him far more responsibilities and duties. It could be a bad sign and you must not ignore the signs.
Prove yourself!
To try and turn things around when you find yourself in this situation, here are things you can do; be as civil and respectful as possible when dealing with the new boss, find out what he likes and how he likes his tasks to be carried out, volunteer to do things that will show him your experience is still important for the team.
He may not like you but if he thinks you are an asset to the firm you have a chance at keeping your place.
  • Mergers and Takeovers
People who work in the banking and financial services sector know the effects of mergers and acquisitions well enough by now. When your company gets sold or merges with another, there many dynamics that come into play and no matter how secure you thought your job was ,  you genuinely need to start making new plans.
Secure your place
During mergers and takeovers there may not be much you can do since certain decisions on who gets sacked after the merger may be taken in the board room. The only way to come out unscathed in this sort of situation is to be an A-star performer from the start. The real human assets rarely get sacked as a result of mergers. So when you hear rumours of mergers involving your company it’s time to buckle up and create top quality work if you have not been doing so. Make sure your accomplishments and tasks are completed within schedule.  Outstanding duties should be documented in your weekly report to your supervisor. Mergers and acquisitions do take some time to complete so you can build up evidence that you are a quality resource to have.
When mergers are completed the experts who are called in to recommend cost cutting strategies will look at files, recommendation letters and briefs of employees to help determine who gets sacked. Having a quality track record of efficient and stellar work will help impress your value on the troubleshooters when they make their list of staff no longer needed.
  • Sexual harassment
A few months ago a disengaged banker was lamenting about his sack for refusing sex offers from his manager (a fellow male). Stories as this incidentally form a sizeable number of the reasons why some people lose their jobs. Most times those who get sacked do not find it useful to disclose the reasons for the dismissal.
Looking handsome or beautiful certainly can be a hindrance. When you get advances from your superior (especially if she wields many powers) the clouds are certainly getting darker. When you do the right thing and turn down her advances she would most likely feel humiliated and come after you.
Talk to the right people about your situation
This situation can be very tricky for most people. If she has superiors it will be a wise thing to try and get your compliant across to them. Many times victims of sexual harassment in the office are afraid to speak out thinking they will worsen their situation by doing so. They get sacked despite their silence.
Getting your concerns about your job to your boss’ superiors is a better way to minimize your chances of getting the sack letter. Respectfully inform higher superiors that while you do not bear any grudges you feel she may be out to get you because of your refusal and state that you just want to be able to do your best work for the organization. Never squeal to your co-workers or juniors in the office. Since they are not in a situation to affect the outcome it is useless or even dangerous to talk to them about it.
What Next?
If you notice you are in any of the situations above follow the tips suggested for each situation. The key here is to take your destiny in your own hands and move to forestall any ugly decisions that may put you out of work. Be proactive with the steps suggested rather than stay at your desk and just hope things do not get worse.

Tuesday, 22 January 2013

There is Light in every Darkness!!!

THERE'S LIGHT IN THE DARKNESS
"Each difficult moment has the potential to open my eyes and open my heart."
-- Myla Kabat-Zinn
"Even the most daring and accomplished people have undergone tremendous difficulty. In fact, the more successful they became, the more they attributed their success to the lessons learned during their most difficult times. Adversity is our teacher. When we view adversity as a guide towards greater inner growth, we will then learn to accept the wisdom our soul came into this life to learn."
-- Barbara Rose
"No matter what difficulty you are facing, it is coming from Divine Light to bring you to a higher place within. Write down every conceivable reason that this situation can contribute towards your growth. Write down every way this experience can possibly set the stage for serving to uplift others. When you are complete, and have come to the other side of this experience, you will then know 'why' it happened."
-- Barbara Rose
"The period of greatest gain in knowledge and experience is the most difficult period in one's life."
-- Dalai Lama

What Your Body Is Telling You!!!

WHAT IS YOUR BODY TELLING YOU?
"There are times when we may fool ourselves. There are times when we can fool others. But we can never fool our body. It is the most sensitive barometer of our inner world."
-- Sherrill Sellman
"Instead of frittering away your vibrancy with worry or distraction, realize your mind and body are inextricably united. What calms and tones up one, soothes and improves the other."
-- Marsha Sinetar
"When you are saying that you are happy and you are not, there will be a disturbance in your breathing. Your breathing cannot be natural. It is impossible."
-- Osho
"Your body is the ground and metaphor of your life, the expression of your existence. It is your Bible, your encyclopedia, your life story. Everything that happens to you is stored and reflected in your body. In the marriage of flesh and spirit divorce is impossible."
-- Gabrielle Roth
"If you don't take care of your body, where will you live?"
-- Unknown source

Friday, 18 January 2013

Heal the past!!!!!


"What you bring forth out of yourself from the inside will save you. What you do not bring forth out of yourself from the inside will destroy you."
-- Gospel of Thomas
We can transform painful memories by re-imagining them from the soul’s perspective of love and meaning.
Andrew Schneider says that all experiences have the purpose of serving the soul. An experience in the past blocked us because our fear at the time distorted our perception of what happened. To transform this limiting experience, we must bring what was then unconscious into the soul’s realm through consciousness.
We can do this by following these steps:
1. RECALL the past experience that might inhibit us.
2. OWN the experience (no judgment, blame, etc.).
3. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for it and the consequences (i.e., the experience was determined by my subjective perception of what occurred, dictated by my lack of wholeness -- specifically my fears).
4. GIVE IT MEANING (the soul was attempting to gain some kind of mastery or skill, but we didn’t know that at the time).
5. RE-IMAGINE it from the perspective of soul consciousness (showing its higher purpose).
"Letting go of our suffering is the hardest work we will ever do. It is also the most fruitful. To heal means to meet ourselves in a new way -- in the newness of each moment where all is possible and nothing is limited to the old."
-- Stephen Levine

Direct your subconscious mind


"The power to move the world is in the subconscious mind."
-- William James
Our subconscious mind creates our lives perfectly according to how it has been programmed. It works 24 hours of every day, 365 days per year. It accepts instructions from the conscious mind, checks on old inner programming and executes.
The subconscious mind acts on old beliefs stored over a lifetime. Many of those beliefs you may have accepted without thinking. Or you may have absorbed them when you were too young to exercise choice. Many of the beliefs that govern your life may no longer match what you now hold to be true.
Nonetheless, the subconscious mind is the director till you rewrite the scripts. Put some effort into getting it working on your positive, conscious intentions instead of your old limiting, unconscious beliefs and your life will change.
"If a man devotes himself to the instructions of his own unconscious, it can bestow this gift [of renewal], so that suddenly life, which has been stale and dull, turns into a rich unending inner adventure, full of creative possibilities

Friday, 11 January 2013

Strengths and Weaknesses


“The burden is equal to the horse’s strength.”
-- The Talmud
What are your strengths? What are your weaknesses?
If you make a list of the two and study them, you may discover they match.
Life needs us to bring our strengths to the world. To encourage us to do so, we have weaknesses that give rise to problems that require us to call on our strengths to solve them. Ingenious, don’t you think?
“Our weaknesses are divine gifts that when embraced will enable us to make our purposeful contribution to the whole, which is why we incarnated in the first place.”
-- Andrew Schneider
“We acquire the strength we have overcome.”
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Is your ego involved?


"There is no room for God in him who is full of himself."
-- Hasidic saying 

On the spiritual path, we must be diligent to discriminate whether we are acting from ego or from soul. If ego is in charge, what we do is self-referencing. At the deepest levels, we are motivated by our own self-interest. We’re looking out for ourselves more than for others.
Although soul works through individuals, its focus is on the needs of others and on service to humanity.
“Do not feed your ego and your problems, with your attention. ...Slowly, surely, the ego will lose weight, until one fine day it will be nothing but a thin ghost of its former self. You will be able to see right through it, to the divine presence that shines in each of us.”
-- Eknath Easwaran
"Why aren't you happy? It's because ninety-nine percent of everything you do, and think, and say, is for yourself -- and there isn't one."
-- Wu Wei Wu

Tuesday, 8 January 2013

Review your life


"Follow effective action with quiet reflection. From the quiet reflection will come even more effective action."
-- James Levin
Take a few minutes today to reflect on what has happened recently and to put the last week in perspective. What made an impact on you this last week? What do you want to set as a goal for next week?
Reflection helps us step back from the details of our lives and see the bigger picture with fresh eyes. It's worth a few moments of your time. Review your week and come up with at least one conclusion, insight or learning and write it in your journal.
“Just because we increase the speed of information doesn't mean we can increase the speed of decisions. Pondering, reflecting and ruminating are undervalued skills in our culture.”
-- Dale Dauten

Don't think away your feelings


“When emotions are managed by the heart, they heighten your awareness of the world around you and add sparkle to life. The result is new intelligence and a new view of life.”
-- Doc Childre and Howard Martin
How do you intellectualize your emotions?
Many of us live so much in our heads that we intellectualize our emotions. We analyze, rationalize and explain them away so quickly that we don’t actually experience them.
Learn to honour your emotions at all times by being willing to feel them. Of course, you may need to exercise some judgment over how and when you express them.
"Learning to be aware of feelings, how they arise and how to use them creatively so they guide us to happiness, is an essential lifetime skill."
-- Joan Borysenko

The key to creativity

"Imagination is more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited. Imagination encircles the world."
-- Albert Einstein
Do you know the key to creativity? 

It rhymes with weed. It produces the oak tree. We often eat it or grind it up for flour. It can mean cause or origination. You guessed it. It is SEED.
Our minds love to associate one thing to another. But as we get stuck in very fixed patterns of thinking, we think of fewer and fewer connections. We are ruled by habits, associations and automatic responses. So we must stimulate our thinking with lots of different seeds to chart new paths in our brains. 

“Just as our eyes need light in order to see, our minds need ideas in order to conceive.”
-- Napoleon Hill 

“Anyone can look for fashion in a boutique or history in a museum. The creative explorer looks for history in a hardware store and fashion in an airport.”
-- Robert Wieder

Work with tension!

“You never will be the person you can be if pressure, tension and discipline are taken out of your life.”
-- James G. Bilkey 

We need tension in our lives. It’s the force of personal evolution -- it sparks creativity and higher consciousness. If we’re not comfortable with a situation, we try to improve it, right?
Tension arises through our experience of opposites. These opposites fight each other as each one struggles for dominance. Tension is transformed when two opposite dimensions of reality are brought together in balance and in wholeness.
Know that tension is an integral part of growth. Instead of avoiding or resisting tension when it arises, identify the opposing forces at play. Make space for each of them to be there together and the tension will transform.
We encounter tensions between positives and negatives, mind and body, self and environment, self and others, and personality and soul – the dualities in our lives.
"Life begins at the end of your comfort zone."
-- Neale Donald Walsch

9 power questions to fuel a powerful year - My gift to you!



What are you doing to ensure that 2013 is your best year yet?

You are the navigator of your journey through life. Are you consciously planning and steering your boat through new adventures or are you typically at anchor in a safe harbor where one day and even one year looks much like the next?

There's nothing wrong with being firmly rooted in routine if that's what you consciously choose for yourself. But if life has become repetitive and disappointing, you might want to do 2013 differently.

Resolve to make 2013 a year to truly know yourself. Resolve to let go of the negative beliefs, emotional reactions, defenses and compromises that keep you in stress and pain. Resolve to bring into your experience whatever best feeds your heart.

Smart Questions offer one of the best ways to understand and change your inner world, and this changes your outer world. Smart questions reveal and heal old limiting programs. They open doors to new possibilities. And they stimulate fresh creative thinking and bring you new perspectives you never thought of before.

Life is better when you have better choices -- choices that come from YOU and not someone else.

All is mind


“I want to know the thoughts of God; the rest are details.”
-- Albert Einstein
 
Everything -- absolutely everything -- that happens in our lives has a spiritual cause. Mental, emotional and physical events are only effects. 

When we are struggling with any challenge, whether it be ill health, a lack of money, a lost job, relationships, an accident, whatever -- we need to look for the spiritual learning. We can ask ourselves, “What quality does my soul want me to live more fully?”

“I went to the root of things, and found nothing but Him alone.”
-- Mira Ba

Feeling trapped? Slow down!

“If you're having difficulty coming up with new ideas, then slow down. For me, slowing down has been a tremendous source of creativity. It has allowed me to open up -- to know that there's life under the earth and that I have to let it come through me in a new way. Creativity exists in the present moment. You can't find it anywhere else.”
-- Natalie Goldberg 

Feeling trapped in some way? Give yourself space. Space to do nothing but breathe. To intentionally relax those tight muscles. To just for a few precious minutes, let it all go.
The world will keep turning if you tune out for a short while. And your world will begin to recover its balance. 
 
“It's important to be heroic, ambitious, productive, efficient, creative, and progressive, but these qualities don't necessarily nurture soul. The soul has different concerns, of equal value: downtime for reflection, conversation, and reverie; beauty that is captivating and pleasuring; relatedness to the environs and to people; and any animal’s rhythm of rest and activity.”
-- Thomas Moore

Happy New Year!!!!

Happy 2013 to you all.


Thanks guys for always viewing this blog, i pray 2013 will be our best year and we all are going to move to the next levels.